Death is a sacred event. It’s a personal event that holds different feelings, emotions, and manifestations for each individual. Period.
Death has manifested into something we don't talk about, cherish, or memorialize as many cultures have throughout human history.
When I read this post I was deeply disturbed to learn that there are people (those who believe funerals are ok to ‘crash’) who have sunken to the lowest societal levels by trespassing on others sacred rituals.
When my daughter was unexpectedly stillborn last year, I learned many things about many people; myself included. Some people understand; some have no clue, some say the right things, some say honorific things in the context of "being nice", and some people show their support but say nothing at all (which is more than enough as they cared to respectfully share in ritual). These "some people", in my case anyway, were family, friends, and of course people whose paths crossed mine solely because of the event. Through my own experience I lost faith in individuals who I thought were good friends, built new friendships in others, no longer have respect for some family members, yet respect others more than I could have ever imagined. I learned a lot from the experience...both good and bad.
To bring this full circle, these people, who hide under the guise of a church no less, have NO BUSINESS showing up, UNINVITED, at anyone's funeral. FOR ANY REASON! Such action is complete disregard (rather, disrespect) for someone else's sacred moment in time.
Let these families begin their grieving process surrounded by the ones they love, loved, and those who love them. Not idiots with an 'agenda'.
I’m glad to hear that there are still heroes, soldiers of humanity if you will, who show up to protect those who need it most…those grieving the loss of someone they love, especially parents who have suffered the fate of outliving their child - unfortunately I share their pain.